The Importance of an Uplifting Culture at Home
The home is the sanctuary for everyone. This is a place where we purposely build each other up. Because once you step outside of the home, the world is ready and willing to tear you down.
“Family is the most important thing in the world.”
— Diana, Princess of Wales was a member of the British royal family as the first wife of Charles, Prince of Wales, the heir apparent to the British throne.
One thing Michelle and I preach at home is the building up of one another. Our house is the sanctuary. In fact, that’s what I tell my kids often. I let them know that the outside world is a harsh environment and that we need to treat each other like gold.
Creating a Positive Uplifting Home Environment
This is simple. What do you want your home life to look like? Yes, this will sound corny to a lot of parents but the most stable environment they’ll have will be their home life.
There are other things that will take up plenty of their time and energy but what they will always remember will be their home life. There’s nothing that can defeat that.
When I left for college to go to Eastern Illinois University, I was glad to be away from home. Freedom!! This is what I thought to myself once I was in my own dorm room. But then I had a few roommates. They were cool but there was a problem: the bathroom.
You’re probably thinking to yourself, what the heck is he talking about?
I understood one thing that became evidently clear. Not many of my friends knew how to keep a place clean. One of the places that I always wanted to keep clean was the bathroom. Why? Because I remember my mom constantly telling us that she hated a dirty bathroom and if there was any place that got under her skin when it was dirty, it was the bathroom.
So naturally I turned into my mom when I went away to college. Freaky right? The very thing that I was running away from (turning into my parents) is the very thing that I turned into while at college.
Why?
Because the home life had a major influence on how I lived my life in the real world.
I preach to our kids that the home is a sanctuary. It’s the place where we build each other up.
My wife has us do The Happiness Journal at dinner time. This is where each individual gets to tell the top three best moments of their day.
It’s a great way to help everyone stop and think and actually talk about the good that has happened in their day.
Be the Example That You Want Your Kids to Be
As parents, we can often get stuck in just telling our kids what to do and if they have an issue with it, we can refer to the saying, do it because I SAID SO.
If you’re like me, you’ve said this plenty of times. But sometimes we forget that most kids learn by watching others. Their mindset isn’t far along enough yet where they can process what goes on in the real world.
They’re learning and they’re like sponges. This is the reason why I’ve heard my kids repeat curse words that I’ve said in a fit of anger.
You have to understand that all kids, no matter the age, are looking to you as an example of how to be as they get older. You’re an everyday example. Now to some parents, this can be overwhelming. But don’t let the spotlight get that big or that bright. Kids literally think you’re God until about the teenage years. But that’s a story for another article.
I remember my mom always being cool under pressure when catastrophes seem to come in loads when I was a kid. We would get the lights cut off, the cable got cut off, there were times we didn’t have enough food and so on.
But all of those times, my mom never said why me God? Why?
She never showed as if she had no control. Now as a parent, I do my best to emulate what she’s created with me. It was something that I could take visual notes and out away in my memory bank.
It’s something that I’ll never forget. In fact, whenever I got into financial trouble, I always invoke my Mom’s attitude that everything is going to be alright.
Conclusion
The bottom line is that the home environment has to be one that is a place for safety for your kid to be whatever they want to be. It’s not about creating this perfect environment but as long as the basic rules are defined, that’s all that matters. You should have simple rules for the culture of your household.
Here’s ours for example:
- We lift each other up
- We speak highly of each other and always look to invest energy and time with each other
- We NEVER let anyone mess with our family. We travel in packs. If someone messes with one of us, they’re dealing with all of us.
- We encourage making mistakes. We understand that mistakes are getting us closer to success. We don’t care about mistakes, we care about the pattern that’s creating the mistakes or success. Recognize the pattern ONLY.
- Always pursue greatness. Anything less is settling to be average.
- Always invite good friends over to be included in our good vibes.
Create your own set of values to create the culture you want in your house and your kids will see what their purpose is in life and what they want to do.
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“If you’re feeling down and out, get around people that are upbeat and uplifting. They’ll quickly lift you out of your funk. Don’t hide. Seek.”
— Fred Blumenberg
