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Instilling an attitude of gratitude starts with serving others who are less fortunate.

Me, Ellie and Trey take a pic before serving over 300 cars in the cold for 2nd Harvest Community Free! Food Distribution on Fri, Jan 29, 2021

“A kid who never serves, is a kid who will grow into a self-centered adult.”

— Fred Blumenberg


As a parent, it’s very easy to tell your kids about people who are less fortunate or how they need to not be so wasteful or to take things for granted. But let’s face it, kids have NO IDEA how fortunate they are. How could they?

Kids have access to $1000 cell phones, the newest laptops, the latest tablets, the best headphones, the most up-to-date TVs etc. Their parents work tirelessly to provide them with plush amenities, good housing and great meals and pretty much whatever they want if they ask for it. …

The loss of a family pet can cause extreme grief and intense sorrow. Here’s how we handled it as a family.

“I miss her so much.”

— Michelle Blumenberg, wife to Fred Blumenberg and an awesome mommy to four beautiful kids

When a death occurs in the family, it can have a life-long impact on kids. Death is inevitable but it isn’t talked about much until it actually happens. The death of a family pet can be just as challenging as the death of a human. Many people treat their dogs or cats as if they’re human. These animals connect with us on such deep levels that it almost feels as if they truly are human.

Carrie was a border collie/golden retriever mix breed. She had MANY human-like characteristics including silliness, constant energy, love, care, affection and always liked to play…

Usually parents are ECSTATIC to send kids back to school. But this year……………. this is something TOTALLY different.

“I have NEVER IN MY LIFE experienced what these kids are experiencing when it comes to going to school. We must prepare for ANYTHING.”

— Fred Blumenberg

School will be starting back for the majority of kids in the US within the next week or so. So the major concern is how do we help our kids adjust to any new normal?

2020 has been the most bizarre year that I could remember. Usually when it’s time to go back to school, parents are super excited to send their kids but this seems a bit different.

Here’s a few ways to help your kids get back in the rotation of whatever school looks like for them:

Prep them for things to be drastically different.

Schools will be…

Being tired is an UNDERSTATEMENT.

“I KNOW FOR A FACT that most people think I have a great life of ease. Little do they know that my life is full of hectic and insane moments of lunacy — combined with many moments of fun.”

— Fred Blumenberg

Life gets hectic real quick when you have kids. It literally goes from 0–100 in two seconds. Anything can happen at any moment, anywhere, anytime.

When Michelle and I decided to move from Chicago, Illinois USA to the small quaint town of Sandpoint, Idaho USA, I made up my mind to work from home as an entrepreneur. Well, let me not make this like it was all my idea. This was actually mostly her idea that was betting and going all-in on me as an entrepreneur.

We knew by moving to the Sandpoint area that there weren’t going to be…

I grew up in the generation of thick skin. Sometimes it’s hard for me to understand the kids of today and why their psyche is so fragile.

“I grew up in a generation of VERY THICK SKIN. I often worry about this generation of kids where “Everyone Deserves a Trophy” and it’s about feelings and NOT reality.”

— Fred Blumenberg

Kids can often over exaggerate things to the point where they truly believe their own over exaggerations. Just listen to how they create stories with their imaginations.

Kids have imaginations that run wild which is a good thing but when it comes to life events, this can become problematic.

Kids are learning about life everyday. Everything is a brand new experience to them. Kids often ask questions when they experience something with other friends, at school or just in general. They want the answers on how to act during a certain situation that feels uncomfortable to them.

Lack of confidence…

It’s important for us as parents to remember that our kids need to experience life for themselves and not for us to relive our experiences through them FOR THEM.

“My kids will be cooler than me and move on to live their own lives. I just want to be a close part to all that coolness.”

― Fred Blumenberg

As a dad of four kids, I could easily live vicariously through one of my kids if I chose to. But here’s the deal. It’s their lives. I have to guide them through their journey and allow them to make their own mistakes.

This is an extremely challenging thing to do on all fronts.

First off, I don’t have teenagers (yet) but I can tell you that sometimes it can be extremely challenging to not let them make their mistakes on their own.

But as parents there are a few things that we must understand when it comes to our children living their own lives.

They Have To Make Their Own Mistakes

I remember when we first moved…

Kids learn from what WE DO, NOT what we say.

“I realized ONE THING when Trey was a toddler and he started emulating everything that I did: It’s not about what I say but MORE ABOUT what I do that will impact him for the rest of his life.”

― Fred Blumenberg

If you haven’t heard my story, I was hospitalized in October 2017 with an infection in my left knee that rendered me unable to walk at the time. That’s not how I planned to end the year of 2017.

I had a Strep virus that infected my knee. It was so bad that I said that my pain level was ten. I never say I have a pain level of ten but this was that pain.

Ironically my hospitalization wasn’t and still isn’t about me. I have four kids who look up to me as if I’m Superman. Indestructible. Can’t…

Moms humbly do their work without asking for recognition much like superheroes save the world without needing the attention.

“Momma does so many things that it makes me wonder how she has the ability to STAY SANE!”

― Fred Blumenberg

Michelle and I have been married for 13 years. People will ask me how I knew that she was “the one.” I often tell people: I just knew.

While that’s not a digestible enough answer for most people, it’s something that can’t be explained. The one thing that made me fall deeper in love with her was after she gave birth to our first child — Trey.

There’s one thing a guy realizes very quickly after watching the birth of a child. We realize that there’s nothing in this world that we could ever do to match that. NOTHING.

We all wish we had these kinds of superpowers but what if I told you that you already did?

“I have ZERO CLUE as to what my kids are thinking but the cool thing about all of that is this… I have taught them HOW to think NOT WHAT to think. I’ve taught them to think for themselves and THAT’S what makes me so proud of them.”

— Fred Blumenberg

Have you ever had that moment when you’ve asked your kid what’s going on in that head of yours? What were you thinking? I don’t know about you but I’ve asked this very question to my kids on everyday.

We as adults are always perplexed by our kids thought process but one of the things we have to remember is that we have a few decades of experience on them. So how are we able to relate to their thinking and be teaching in the same moment?

Here are a few tips in helping to understand your kids and…

Kids hear what you SAY but their primary focus and attention is on what you DO.

“We can lecture all day long to our kids but the minute we do something out of character, they (the kids) repeat THAT behavior INSTANTLY!”

— Fred Blumenberg

One of the hardest things for most kids to deal with is how to live life. That’s right — how to live life and understand life’s lessons. If you don’t understand how to cope and solve these life lessons, you’ll grow up to replicate the behavior that you witnessed as a child.

Mentally this can be incredibly challenging. Our young kids have a bevy of obstacles that I never had to deal with.

Be Honest About Social Media

Most kids don’t understand the enormity of social media. They often post to social media thinking that it will reach their friends and only they will…

Coach Fred Blumenberg 🤩⚡️ #AuthenticPositivity

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